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Old 10-28-2013, 10:02 AM   #1
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I thought this would be an interesting topic. A long time friend of mine informed me that he started seeing a woman outside of his marriage. He has no plans to get divorced or let his kids or wife know so he can keep the family unit together. His wife has no idea. It seems they don't argue but she is a distant wife and he just couldn't take the loneliness any more.

I guess the question is: do you think this is a better option for the children than divorce? I'm still processing this choice and not sure what I think yet.
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Old 10-28-2013, 10:18 AM   #2
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I have a mistress, and my wife knows all about her, she is not to fond of the idea, but, she realizes my mistress provides me with something she can not.....

I am talking about of course....my IRON Mistress!!
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Old 10-28-2013, 10:20 AM   #3
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Old 10-28-2013, 10:26 AM   #4
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You made a LIFE commitment to someone, honor it! It's not easy, it takes work! It's not always roses. Don't like cheating or lying to someone, and hiding it to supposedly spare others feelings, you're only hiding your own guilt, plain and simple. While society might be accepting of this, I personally am not. This is my own opinion and I'm not telling anyone else what to do. However don't make a life commitment if you plan on backing out when things aren't perfect.
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I think its the same thing as if you make a deal with a good friend

Marriage is a mutual agreement and should be honoured as such.

I dont know whats best for the kids in this matter though, its really hard to say.
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I don't think things can ever be right again in a marriage based on lying. If you aren't getting what you need from your marriage, be that physical, emotional, spiritual, whatever, get out of it and move on.

My wife is VERY hard to deal with sometimes, but when I think about my life without her I realize that I'm far happier with her in my life than I could ever be without her. I may WANT to have sex with other women, but I won't. Ever. Because my wife and my family mean more to me than anything else in the world.

As far as what's best for the kids, I've seen many more people who have healthy relatioships with divorced parents than those who have good relationships with parents that stayed together in an unhealthy, unfulfilling marriage.
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It's hard to justify that decision, I think he believes it's best to keep the unit together but at the same time it's a bit of a selfish decision.

Can't have your cake and eat it too.
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Not that I feel I should be telling him what to do, but if he asks, what do you think he should do: stay is a grinding marriage or get divorced? What would you do?
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I might get in trouble for saying this but... as a Bible Thumper I feel like I should say that Marriage is supposed to be for life. Anything outside of that is Adultery and misses the entire point of what marriage is about and is a picture of (Christ loving the Church)

back to my corner.

INB4 "marriage is a government scam" or something along those lines... as I obviously disagree.
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