The Free-Weight Area - A Woman's Perspective

[Shadowschmadow]

Originally Posted by muscleboundmama

True! And like I said in the post, I KNOW not all men are like that. I have some good guy friends at the gym who would never disrespect another person, much less a woman - this is my perspective from MY experience. If others have a different experience - i'm GLAD!

There's a time and place for flirting, and most fail to realize that its not when the woman is in the middle of something.

[Soldier]

uhg. . .Very happy I don't have to flirt anymore.

That's what beer is for. I'm not sure if I got better at flirting when I was buzzed, or if the women were just more receptive. Probably a little bit of both.

[muscleboundmama]

Originally Posted by Shadow

There's a time and place for flirting, and most fail to realize that its not when the woman is in the middle of something.

YES! You got it. You guys are awesome. LOL

[Shadowschmadow]

I found that ignoring them works best. It forces them become the "aggressor", and gives you an idea of who is really interested and who isn't; instead of making yourself look like an ass by talking to women who don't have an interest in you.

[Shadowschmadow]

Originally Posted by muscleboundmama

YES! You got it. You guys are awesome. LOL

I grew up with 3 sisters and my mother, so learning to understand women wasn't an option... But it sure helped me get the ladies.

[Abaddon]

There are a few places in the public domain where gender stereotypes still rule people's behaviour; the free weight section is one of these places.

[muscleboundmama]

Originally Posted by Shadow

I found that ignoring them works best. It forces them become the "aggressor", and gives you an idea of who is really interested and who isn't; instead of making yourself look like an ass by talking to women who don't have an interest in you.

Good plan - I just want to be treated like one of the guys in the gym because i'm there to train. I like getting sweating, and grunting, and making horrendous faces under a bar - I don't want to think about having to look good there lol. Some women do, and that's ok! It's just not for me.

Thanks for being one of the good guys

[Gaz6682]

Originally Posted by Abaddon

There are a few places in the public domain where gender stereotypes still rule people's behaviour; the free weight section is one of these places.

I must be lucky, I've never seen it. I've never seen a woman treated any differently by anyone. I would, and have offered assistance with form same as I would to a man. I've watched complete sets same as i would with a man to either learn or offer assistance if necessary. I've helped unrack weight, same as I would with a man. Aren't we all in the same boat regradless of gender or age or any other genetic difference?

[Shadowschmadow]

Originally Posted by Gaz6682

I must be lucky, I've never seen it. I've never seen a woman treated any differently by anyone. I would, and have offered assistance with form same as I would to a man. I've watched complete sets same as i would with a man to either learn or offer assistance if necessary. I've helped unrack weight, same as I would with a man. Aren't we all in the same boat regradless of gender or age or any other genetic difference?

Lol, I'm the opposite. I avoid all contact at the gym, for the most part. I have 3 friends at my gym, the rest I've talked to are complete tools. One of my buddies is an ex-college powerlifter. The other two are older guys (mid-late 50's) and they're ****ing strong. Like, really strong. I watch them out lift people less than half their age all day long. Good guys though.

Then there's the lumber jack, who I've had a very brief conversation with; I spotted him, he spotted me and our explanations of what to do were about all we said to each other. This dude is an animal. If I see him again, I'll take a picture. I've never seen anyone work like this guy does. Never.

[muscleboundmama]

Originally Posted by Gaz6682

I must be lucky, I've never seen it. I've never seen a woman treated any differently by anyone. I would, and have offered assistance with form same as I would to a man. I've watched complete sets same as i would with a man to either learn or offer assistance if necessary. I've helped unrack weight, same as I would with a man. Aren't we all in the same boat regradless of gender or age or any other genetic difference?

I'd say you are lucky and i'd love it if your idea of gender equality in the free-weight area was more common. happy to hear you have a different experience than i had. my experience is different - and having fun with it makes it makes it less obnoxious.