All the ladies want me....

[Marc]

All the ladies want me, that I dont want.... and all of the ones I do want rarely seem to show a genuine interest back... WTF guys clue me in here. Do I just need to be like chris farley and say "hey you wouldnt happen to know where they weight room is?" haha I'm really not sure, I really like a woman that I am talking to right now, we talk all the time throughout the day but I just cannot tell for sure if she's interested in the way that I am or not... Not going to lie I am deathly afraid to ask her on a date for fear of the resulting answer. I have a real high standard in many aspects of a partner, which goes back to my all time favorite quote "You deserve what you settle for" My life is so much more stress free when woman are not in the picture, I focus more on work and everything else, but it seams no matter what I am easily distracted from that thought whenever I meet someone new.

[Trevor Lane]

Dude, if you give her the impression that you don't give a **** what her answer is, it will be yes to whatever you ask

[ThickLegs McDeadlift]

Just ask, the worse she can do is say no.

[BendtheBar]

Originally Posted by Marc

All the ladies want me, that I dont want.... and all of the ones I do want rarely seem to show a genuine interest back...

I wish I had the answer as to why, but I don't. I think the smartest thing I ever started to do was not care any more what they think and just go for it. The second I stopped worrying about how they would react, I started to relax and they seemed to respond better.

And if they don't like me, I move on.

[Trevor Lane]

Originally Posted by Trevor Lane

Dude, if you give her the impression that you don't give a **** what her answer is, it will be yes to whatever you ask

Originally Posted by BendtheBar

I wish I had the answer as to why, but I don't. I think the smartest thing I ever started to do was not care any more what they think and just go for it. The second I stopped worrying about how they would react, I started to relax and they seemed to respond better.

And if they don't like me, I move on.

2 sides to the same coin Steve.

[Marc]

Good advice boys! I just think about things way too much and let them go to my head! I need to just relax tomorrow, have a couple beers and ask her out on a fun informal date... I think that would be the direction to go.

[Shaolinkiwi]

Some good advice there guys. I think as soon as you start to worry it shows and will turn the girls off.

Just be confident in yourself and don't worry about begin shot down, it's a numbers game the more you hit on the more success you'll have.

One guy hits on 10 girls might get one positive response, another guy hits on 100 girls might get 10 positive responses.

Moral - who cares if they shoot you down, they aren't the only female on the plant. confidence breeds success.

my 2 cents anywayz.

[Marc]

Confidence breeds success... I like that, and its true in every other aspect in life why wouldnt it be for this one!

Normally this would not be a problem for me, but I really like this one alot, she is on a completely different level from what I am used to as far as how emotionally deep and intelligent she actually is. You guys got me all psyched up props to my second family for always having the answers to lifes BS!

[jslep]

agreed..........confident and honest is the bottom line, the rest takes care of it self.

[BendtheBar]

Originally Posted by Marc

Good advice boys! I just think about things way too much and let them go to my head! I need to just relax tomorrow, have a couple beers and ask her out on a fun informal date... I think that would be the direction to go.

Take my advice, don't ask, tell.

Say, "You know what...tomorrow we're going out for dinner. I'll pick you up at 7."

Don't say it in a Rico Suave kind of way, while staring deep into her eyes and sounding all sexay and smooth. Just say it normally, like a man, while staring into your beer.