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Old 02-14-2012, 09:27 PM   #1
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Default A priceless E-Mail from a friend, in which built the fire

I was looking back through my One Note Journals (dating back to 2005), and found this e-mail. We became very close friends since then, and it is he in which kindled the fire of toughness in the things I want. I love this guy, for his straight forwardness, and yes.....KINDNESS. It set the standard, of my attitude toward diet AND the goals in which I want.

Note: Read "between-the-Lines" when you read this e-mail.

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You must face your enemy head on. You must learn its habits, its tendencies, foundation, and motivation. It is then, when you do, you learn to fight this enemy, and win the majority of its battles, and the war in which will hand you the win you want.


Your questions I hear all the time: how to stop giving in to food cravings.

How to stop eating your favorite junk food. Maybe it’s chocolate or ice-cream or candy of some kind, or maybe it’s cookies and cake, or potato chips or fast food, or something you just love to eat, but need to stop eating because it is junk food.

Whether you are trying to lose weight or gain weight, no matter what your goals are, everyone likes some kind of junk food and needs to control eating But, some people just can't stop. They just can't "get rid of the cravings" for these foods, and just can't stop giving in to their food cravings.

Before I go any further, let me be honest. I am going to get mean in this e-mail. I am sure I will offend you.

My goal is to get my point of view across, a point of view that I feel very strongly about, and I am sure you or someone else will disagree with it, but oh well. I serve your best interest whether you believe it or not.

I want to get my point of view across in the exact way that I have it in my head, so I will NOT sweeten it up so that I don't hurt your girly feelings or make you angry with me. I want to get my point across in such a way that it motivates you when reading this.

So, if you have a problem with that, stop reading. If you don't, then here goes...

SHUT UP!!!! Who the hell are you to whine to me? Shut up already!!

Sure, I can completely understand if your problems with getting the results you want are from the wrong information about your workout or diet. I've been there before. I used to do the wrong stuff. I want to save you time, money and effort by giving you free truthful information about how to get the results you want. But, this isn't about your diet or workout. This isn't about you wasting money on some useless ab workout product or stupid weight loss product or other useless supplements and gimmicks that weren't working for you.

This is about food cravings. Don't whine to me. I've heard it before...

"It's so hard, I'm around this type of food all the time, the cravings just won't go away, I have a sweet tooth, I just have to give in to the cravings."

Stop it, you're boring me.

Don't give me your little stories.

Like how you are around this type of food all the time. Do you think you are the only one, buddy?

Everyone I know and am related to eats junk food all day long. This crappy food is everywhere I look. I am no different than you, except, I don't give in. Do I have super human powers? No. Do I not give in because my arms are bigger than yours? No. Do I not give in because I can bench press more than you? No. Do I not give in because my body fat is lower than yours? No. Do I not give in because I am physically better or physically stronger than you?
No. I don't give in because I am mentally stronger than you. That's all it is really, mental.

And for you to give in and me not to give in, we can only assume that I am mentally stronger than you. How does that make you feel? I don't know a damn thing about you, but I know that mentally, I can do something that you cannot. It sure makes me feel good though. That fact motivates me even more. So, thanks for being so mentally weak. It will make me work that much harder during my next workout. Thanks a lot.

Sorry, did I hurt your feelings yet? I didn't mean to, I'm just stating the truth. It's not my fault if the truth hurts. You understand now that this is all mental, right? You understand that it's all a matter of mental strength and will power, don’t you? Good. Here's what you do.

Next time your little food cravings start coming out, think about this. Look at the food and think, "What do I want more… the 5 seconds of enjoyment that I will have while I chew this food, or the enjoyment of the fact that 24 hours of everyday, 7 days of every week, I will have the body that I want to have." That is what it comes down to really, and let me tell you... no food tastes as good as that feeling feels.

And you other people, you bullshitters. The ones that give me that idiotic speech about how "every food is ok if eaten in moderation." And how "no one should deny themselves anything." These are the same people who probably believe in having "Cheat days." Cheat days are the 1 day of the week where some people allow themselves to cheat a little from their diet and give into their food cravings, in moderation of course, kind of like a reward for the good work they did all week. Ya know what... BULLSHIT! The hell with you and your cheat days. Your reward for sticking to your diet all week is 1 day of cheating? What kind of complete crap is this?

Your reward for sticking to your diet all week is RESULTS! Remember them? They’re the reason that you are on this diet and working out in the first place. To get results!!! Not to have a cheat day at the end of the week.

Every food is ok as long as it's eaten in moderation. One candy bar won't hurt. One cookie won't hurt. One piece of junk food won't hurt. Oh, is that so? Will it help? No, it will not help. It is doing nothing good for you in any way possible. Therefore, it serves no purpose. You are giving into your cravings for 5 seconds of chewing enjoyment, and nothing more.

If anything, it does more bad than good. Do you know what giving into your food cravings "in moderation" does to most people? It makes them feel guilty. It makes them crave that food even more. It keeps the cravings alive and strong. Stop giving in to your cravings and the cravings will go away. Simple as that.

What are you thinking now? Who am I? Like I never cheat or give into my cravings a little? NO! I don't! Not at all, not a little, not in moderation, not anything. The thought of eating some type of junk food doesn't even enter my mind anymore. I don't need those 5 seconds. I am stronger than that. Call it will power, or call it mental strength. My goal is to get results. My road to getting those results doesn't have to have 5 seconds of chewing pleasure. I eat for purpose, not pleasure.

Food is not a hobby. Food is something your body needs to survive, and in the case of working out and getting results, food is something your body needs so that you can get those results. Food is nothing more than that. So, I give my body only what it needs to make these results happen. Does my body need the 5 seconds it takes for me to chew a piece of chocolate? No. Does my mind need it? NO! My mind is way too strong to need it, and that feels much better than any piece of chocolate would ever taste, and I love knowing that.

Like I said, I eat for purpose, not pleasure. That statement sums up everything that I think about "cheat days" and "food cravings" and "everything is ok if it's eaten in moderation."

So don't whine to me about how hard it is for you. Do you think I will feel bad for you? I won't. You are not special. It is exactly as hard for you as it is for me and EVERYONE else. What's the difference? I have what it takes mentally. Ya know what else? You have it too. You just need to learn to use it. And, hopefully… this e-mail has helped bring it out.

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LOL........Love it.



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I agree that if a person has set their sights on a certain diet that they should not whine all day long about it, diabetics and others are around foods they are not even permitted to eat, let alone have cravings for.

However, I enjoy food and don't restrict much, apart from milky products which have to be restriceted out of necessity, but if I'm losing weight and/or gaining lean mass, I'm not going to place myself on a "I eat for purpose, not pleasure" style dietary intake.

Cheat meals, do work for some people, that has to be remembered; meals and how we all approach food is not a one-size-fits-all.


Basically, do whatever works for you.
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Most people don't know how to cook or how to make suitable alternatives. Instead of being provided alternatives to food they are given restrictions and see only chicken, bland rice and broccoli in their future.
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Most people don't know how to cook or how to make suitable alternatives. Instead of being provided alternatives to food they are given restrictions and see only chicken, bland rice and broccoli in their future.
Yeah you are right. But there is so much more out there. If only people could open their minds and see how delicious some of these foods are, then they may have an open mind for giving up the junk.
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There is a lot more to this e-mail than what has been stated in the responses.

We all have problems when having goals.

No one is different in this regard other the types of problems experienced. The ones in which are able to win more battles than they lose, win the war and earn their goal.

Period. Over.

We have to toughen our asses up/suck it up when the going gets tough. And its these tough times when we push through is actually when a lot of psychological and physical progress is made.

One that partakes on a diet and studies calories, macros, and other variables of nutrition, know the benefit of having a cheat day or re-feed day with some individuals.

Sometimes (like when low-carbing, or lowering/depleting glucose storage), a re-feed is actually extremely beneficial physiologically and psychologically to the tough minded individual. However, in some cases (person dependent) a cheat day can wreak havoc on the future dietary trend and in some cases isn't beneficial. This is why when reading an e-mail such as this is to take it in multiple definitions and/or context, and spin off some beneficial independent thinking beyond the original theme presented.

I love guys like this. Because it assists in making you face your enemies, complications, and other problems head on--instead of whining like a 3 year old in diapers.
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