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Old 10-27-2011, 12:05 PM   #11
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When I was younger, I used to socialize with co-workers. I did all the parties and hit happy hour. I learned a lot of hard lessons. One of them, for me, is that work is work. Friend and Co-worker rarely mix well, long term, for a variety of reasons...


...So, what I think I am trying to say is, what you do is simply explain that you don't do parties and don't eat the food usually found at them and why. One of my favorite explanations is "I only eat the foods that promote me looking and feeling like I want to look and feel."

It's not being anti-social. Expecting you to partake (once they understand your dieting restrictions) would be the same thing as expecting non-smokers or alcoholics to hang out with you in smoky dive bars.
I agree 100%. I'm a friendly guy at work, I like my co-workers, and I will help anybody out that I can. But I almost never socialise with co-workers. Go out with co-workers and guess what do you end up talking about? Work.

When I get invited out, I take time to thank the person and tell them I appreciate their thoughtfulness. Then I say no. It's easy.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with applying the same logic to any sort of social occasion. I haven't been to a wedding, for example, since I was 18. But I recognise that's probably a step too far for most.
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Old 10-27-2011, 12:21 PM   #12
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All I ever hear is "Oh I could never do that!" I know you couldn't. That's why you're fat and I'm awesome.
One day, when I'm awesome, I'm gonna use this line. LOL.
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Old 10-27-2011, 12:25 PM   #13
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One day, when I'm awesome, I'm gonna use this line. LOL.
You're favorite exercise is squats and your favorite supplement is whole milk. . .

I hereby dub you as officially part of the awesome club.
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Old 10-27-2011, 12:25 PM   #14
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Its not as big of a deal for me since my co-workers saw me deflate from 360+ pounds down to 220. That, and with the office being back in Southern California, its hard to get people to eat anything that isnt an organic vegetable. After a while, they just get used to you bringing chunks of meat to the party.
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Go out with co-workers and guess what do you end up talking about? Work.
Not necessarily - depends a lot on your co-workers. Some of my colleagues are crazy about football and some others are crazy about cricket, movies, classical music and theater. So there's plenty of non-work related talk.

I guess you could say though, that these folks are more than colleagues, they are also good friends.

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I haven't been to a wedding, for example, since I was 18. But I recognise that's probably a step too far for most.
I know folks who skip weddings, and I personally think that's fine. But in India, we had a small group of friends who would go to weddings (invited of course ) and have our own eating contests. The lure of these contests ensured my attendance in most weddings
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We generally all just end up talking about sex. I work with a right bunch of slags, male and female!
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Not necessarily - depends a lot on your co-workers. Some of my colleagues are crazy about football and some others are crazy about cricket, movies, classical music and theater. So there's plenty of non-work related talk.
Well, you're talking from experience and I'm only speculating, so I'll take your word for it.
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Heres my take.......i think no matter what you should be able to stand tall in your convictions not to eat the food and still be social at the party. If someone wants to hear you explain for the 100th time why you don't want to eat a plate of poop then explain away with the same enthusiam you have for your lifestyle. When you prepare for a bodybuilding show and you bring your own tuperware of chicken, broccoli, and rice where ever you go you are proud to tell everyone whats the deal with not eating crap food. Same if you're not competing...just explain you don't like to eat crap cuz it makes you feel like crap and hold your head high knowing those people wish they were as strong willed as you are. EVERYONE should be proud of the lifestyle they have chosen and be willing to portray that in any situation. Peer pressure or ribbing shouldn't deture you from having a good time unless you truly are anti-social.
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@jslep - Well said, sir. Well said.
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Just started a new job last summer. Over the past 3 months there have been several parties ( birthdays, Halloween, general social events ). I'm on-board with socializing but the food options are always horrendous and I do not eat. I am VERY critical of my diet and will not eat what is available. Ran into the same problem with my last employer where I was labeled a food “freak” & anti-social for 10 years. The thing is, I am in my late 40’s and in much better physical shape ( IMO ) then 99% of the folks ribbing me. And they’re at least 10-15 years younger than I am! Smokers, chronic soda drinkers, and fast-food advocates.

I eat hard, work hard, & play hard.

How can I politely explain to people or excuse myself from these functions without looking like a snob or anti-social?

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IMO, people should respect other people's decisions but unfortunately that is never the case in society. I have a social eating phobia, which I don't tell people about but tend to say I've eaten, or that I'm not hungry and I generally get left alone...though, these days, I just come out with it since those situations can make me very stressed.


There is a middle ground, however, know what is the least problematical food on offer: deep fried are bottom of the list; heavy fat/sugar laden are middle of the list; basic foods (sandwiches) are reasonable choices; salads (non oil drenched) are fair game.

The problem with buffets is that they are generally finger food and always greasy. Parties tend to go for finger foods as well, so not much better overall.

Overcoming the problem and still being seen as being "social" can be a nightmare especially if you are on a set diet...you could select one item and then surround it by salad/fruit etc, or select one item and just pick at it...or take your own food.

People that are diabetic or allergic to foods tend to be given leeway (though not by everyone, surprisingly) that same leeway should be given to others no matter what their reasons are; females would be able to pull the diet-card and it would be seen as acceptable but men, for some reason, get a different more aggressive response from both genders.
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