The Ins and Outs on Motivation when you're Mad-Get PISSED!
The Ins and Outs on Motivation when you're Mad
Written by Chad Cook
Saturday, 16 December 2006
Part ONE (it has many pages, and it wasn't displayed all that well, so I decided to post them)
Motivation comes in many different forms. Motivation is the reason why people do what they do. Without motivation, many chores and tasks would be difficult to accomplish or achieve. Some people may be motivated from within and outside sources to aid them in achieve their goals will not be needed. For others, things like rewards, praise and benefits are the reasons why they are motivated in the first place. Anger is one emotion that can also aid people in becoming more motivated when it is used in a positive way.
For many people, getting mad is the start of motivation. For example, if you are on a diet and gain weight instead of losing, you feel angry. This anger can often motivate you to try harder and work more to accomplish your goals. If you failed to get a job you really wanted, you may feel angry enough to do something about it, such as getting a better education. Anger can be either good or bad for motivation. It is important to stop and think about your actions when you are angry so that poor choices are not made on the spur of the moment.
When someone is motivated to make changes or to do something because he or she is mad, it can cause drastic changes. Everyone experiences anger in their home lives, at work, and even on the roads driving in the car. When you are able to understand your anger and the anger of others, you may be able to channel that anger into something positive. Anger is a powerful emotion and with that energy, you can use it productively. It could even be possible to help motivate others when they are angry.
With the right focus and energy, it is possible to use anger to handle conflict productively, recognize what angers you and why and use that for motivation. Anger can make it very difficult for people to stay happy. It can also make marriages and family life miserable. When people harbor anger, it can destroy every kind of relationship in a person's life. In addition, anger leads to stress. When you have learned to turn that anger into beneficial motivation, you can break the cycle of anger and help yourself and others around you.
The first step in turning your anger into positive motivation, it is important to understand why you are angry. When you understand the source of your anger you can turn that into positive energy. For example, if you are angry because you cannot lose five pounds, you can use that to motivate yourself into trying harder, eating right or even exercising more. Anger alone will not help you process information efficiently. It will also prevent you from realizing the real reason why you are mad. As soon as you understand that, you can work to make a difference in your own life and the life of others.
The next step in turning your emotions into motivation is to stay focused. You will need to remember why you feel upset and set goals to help you achieve your goals. When people use their anger as positive motivation, they also need to remember what their initials goals are. This is especially important when tackling a long-term goal such as cleaning out a house or when you want to stop smoking. It is often beneficial to make a list of goals and keep them handy when you are feeling frustrated. Marking off your small achievements on your list can help you actually see what you have accomplished over a period of time. Many goals will take a long time to accomplish so it is important to not become frustrated and take your time when you feel motivated.
One thing to remember when you are angry is to use your energy for positive motivation. It best to stop and think about any decision you will make when you are mad. Many bad choices are made when people feel upset or angry. The goal to using your anger as motivation is to find positive ways to channel that energy. When people become angry and act on the spur of the moment they can harm themselves or others.
Motivation comes in many forms and when you feel strong emotions, you can often motivate yourself. Using anger to benefit yourself when you need motivation can help you let go of anger and benefit you life in more ways than one.
Part two (page 2)
The Ins and Outs on Motivation when you're Mad
Written by Chad Cook
Saturday, 16 December 2006
Everyone sets goals for themselves. Every person has dreams, perhaps to get in shape, earn more income, spend more time with the family, or go on a big vacation. Dreams and goals are an aspect of every person's life. Without them, we would have nothing to look forward to, and have no motivation. There are ways to help keep yourself motivated to achieve your dreams, regardless of how big or small they may be.
Motivation is why we do what we do. It is what keeps us working at accomplishing tasks in order to reach our goals and it prompts us daily to work towards that destination. Each person is motivated for different reasons, even if they have the same goal in sight. For people who are intrinsically motivated, they have the power from within to make changes and work towards their goals. They do not rely on outside forces to help them achieve their dreams. Others are motivated by extrinsic reasons. These are people who look to outside forces for the motivation to help them achieve their goals. It could be money, praise or other rewards. Most people are motivated by a combination of the two. The way to accomplish your goals is to find what motivates you and use it to help you stay the course.
The first technique needed to make your dreams come true is to set goals for yourself. If you jot down the steps you feel are needed to achieve the end result, it will be easier for you to take those steps one at a time. Visualize your goal through writing or by pictures. If you want to lose weight, use a journal to write down each step you will take every day to bring about that result. Find a picture of an outfit or a bathing suit you want to be able to get into, and mentally picture yourself in it. This technique can be used to accomplish even smaller goals, such as cleaning out a closet. Write down the steps you need to take and cross one or two small steps off your list every day. Find a picture of the way your want your closet to look when you are finished and hang it where you can't miss it. Visualizing your goal will keep your mind clearly focused on what you want to accomplish and will help keep you motivated without bogging you down.
Next, enlist the support of others to help you fulfill your dreams. Tell everyone around you what you want to achieve and surround yourself with positive people that can encourage you every day to reach your goal. If you want to quit smoking, talk to others that have successfully done so, and they can help you through the roughest times. Stay away from those that can pull you down, or encourage you to fall back into your old behavior patterns.
Another technique you can call on in order to accomplish your goals is to reward yourself. A reward down the line can rev up almost anyone's motivation to work on a task. When you have cleaned out that closet, reward yourself by buying a nice storage system for the closet. You can also help others as a reward. Once you've lost weight, give those clothes you won't be using to a shelter. Or, when you finally stop smoking, use that money you would have bought cigarettes with, and start a savings account for your kids. You will feel motivated by rewarding yourself and others and know that you have helped yourself and those around you in the process.
You can also help yourself achieve your goals by setting up a timetable for accomplishing the necessary tasks along the way. For long-term goals, you may not be able to accomplish them quickly. Some achievements take weeks or months. Give yourself a realistic time frame to accomplish the necessary steps to your goal, and work a little each day toward the end result. Mark off every step on your calendar that brings you closer to your goal so you can monitor your accomplishments.
Finally, when you are working hard to accomplish your dreams, you can stay motivated by keeping your expectations realistic. Accept the fact that you are bound to have a few setbacks and try not to worry about a few bumps in the road. Achieving your goals can be difficult, and if you get frustrated with setbacks, you are more likely to give up. Instead of doing that, give yourself a break, literally. Promise yourself you'll get back to working on your goals and do not beat yourself up if you have one bad day. Stay motivated and just vow to pick up the pieces and start all over again the next day.
I have often been motivated out of madness. I know that there is nothing like a really good workout or lift to help bring my spirits up.
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