A second opinion is never a bad thing but what you do with the information is what matters.
Here is my opinion and it's just that , an opinion . Do what Al said and be the best bencher you can be. One day you will have grand kids and it would be a shame to let a lifting dream get in the way of bein able to lift the most precious thing of all and that is a child. Stay healthy and live a long healthy life.
Go body build and get the extra weight off and make your wife's panties drop every time you enter the room.
What ever you decide , I have the greatest respect for you as a person and a lifter and would love to drink some beer with you.