Originally Posted by jhuse2
I have been married for 7 yrs. I have found out that I get to have fun when she wants to have fun. I have been trying to convince her that having sex can boost my testosterone and help me workout better. She hasn't gone for it yet.
I've tried that route too. "Testosterone is the key to my longevity! I will literally die without sex!"
Originally Posted by Shaolinkiwi
I known my wife for 10years been married the last two. Went from once / twice daily at uni to the well almost begin dry since the ring went her finger.
It gets worse when kids come. I don't think we done it more then twice a week in the last 10 years. Generally it's out once every 4-5 days, and that's with a lot of covert begging.
Originally Posted by RickB
And from a good friend of mine who has been filling me in on the status of his wife's non-interest in sex. They've been married 16yrs and it had been over a month since he was able to "get together" with her. She turned him down on his birthday in early December, again a couple more times mid-Dec, and again on Christmas. Yet again on NYE. She knew she had a problem and she went to the Doctor to see if she was having hormone problems because she had no desire. So she is at least making an effort.
My buddy has a great sense of humor and he let her know he's been having to take care of it himself during this time. Stardate: Jan 01, 2010...heheh, in the morning he started letting her know he wanted it.
She got up and locked the door and said "OK, how do you want it?"
He very seriously (but with humor hidden) said "Just lay there!" He paused a good bit and said "this is NOT going to take long". And he said in well under 2 minutes he was done and the both started laughing.
OK, maybe not super funny to those that don't know him....but this guy can make you crack up with the way he delivers things.
It sure doesn't take long when you don't get it often. Getting it every day, I had forgotten how long I could go. I surprised myself. It was damn good cardio.
Originally Posted by RickB
Man, what an offer!!!! Women don't know that when they say something sex related in a positive light to a man, he has her full attention to all details. They just don't seem to put as much "weight" into what is said as we do. But just take what you can get and roll with it. I wouldn't make a big deal about a missed day now and again
Maybe start a log, minus details. Like this:
Day 1: hit it
Day 2: hit it
Day 3: missed it
Day 4: back in the saddle
You see what I mean
I'm 5 out of 6 this year. 83.3%...not quite 90.
Destroy That Which Destroys You
"Let bravery be thy choice, but not bravado."